Marcy Place--the place for my mom!

Finally, I was able to arrange to put my mother in an assisted living facility!  It took an act of Congress almost, but it is done!  My sister has power of attorney over my mom's financial issues, so I had to wait for authorization before any of this could take place.  Still, there are some loose ends that keep cropping up but, all in all, I feel much relieved to have gotten this done.  I hope that she will adjust to it; she seemed like she would at first, but then I went on a trip (my first real break in months!).  After I came back, Mom was back to her ol' self--whining ad nauseum!  I guess everyone needs a hobby--my mom's is complaining and belittling me~!!  My sister hasn't been much help with any of this; finally my nephew helped us get her moved into the facility with her furniture.  It was 10 days after we paid the rent; of course, Mom complained about all the days that were wasted as a result.  Now she isn't eating much, although she never did anyway, but they have really good food there.  All home-cooked and very delicious, as far as I know.  Also, she knits and they asked her to teach a class, but that never panned out, apparently.  Oh, well, what can I do?  I am not a miracle worker and I have been handling all this responsibility for over three years now.  I got really sick and tired of being the one that does everything...things I don't want to do, but had to.  However, sister dear does whatever she wants and everything revolves around her.  She has never in her life had to do anything that she didn't want to do; lucky her.  'Nough said!! Right? 

MOM!

My mom has finally hurt my feelings in front of friends!  I wasn't sure about something she said a few days before, because then I wasn't paying that much attention.  However, yesterday proved to be what I had presumed!  My mom truly believes she only has one grandson!  She doesn't acknowledge my son much, if at all, but when she even said that to the neighbors, I quickly interrupted her with a statement about the fact that she had forgotten she had another grandson!  Her reply:  I only saw him once or twice!  That is certainly not true and how embarrassing that is in front of other people.

My son is a very good person and, if my mom didn't get to see him that much, that is my fault!  I take the blame for that, but don't disrespect my son!  He came right out of me and she acts like I just found him on the street or something.  Just because she raised her other grandson for 9-10 years, she has this delusion of some sort.  Well, my parents were raising my daughter for a few years also; I felt that she was safer and better off with them at the time.  They adopted her at a young age so they could register her in school, as I had moved away and was having another baby with my new husband.  That was admirable of them and I have never wanted to bring up any ill will, but sometimes it is there.  While my daughter was in their care, she was in an accident and passed away.  She was unsupervised at the time, as both my parents were working and one of my sisters was going to check on her during that short period of time she was alone.  It doesn't take long for tragedy to strike when it involves children.  It has been a very long time ago since that occurred, but the memory is still very fresh!  My dad has since passed away and so has that sister, however Mom is still here and becoming more of a burden than ever.  The sister with the other grandson is of very little help in the care of an elderly parent.  I rarely have a day off and, when I do, I must work my schedule around someone else.  I cannot go on much longer!  Things must change or something drastic might happen!